We all might have mixed opinions on Kim Kardashian’s popularity and who might be dying next in Game of Thrones character; but we can all agree with one thing: the Dalai Lama kicks ass in any metaphysical possible way.
Even if you have been living under a rock, or in absolute disgusting luxury, the words of wisdom and compassion of the Dalai Lama might have travelled across mountains and rivers to get to your ears. Even if it was for a split-second, after absorbing his wisdom you might have second-guessed your life, or maybe your shoulders relaxed a little, your lips curling into a smile.
It’s true. There are motivational quotes, and there are the Dalai Lama’s motivational quotes.
Unlike any other motivational quotes, the Dalai Lama has the incredible talent to grab you by the shoulders and blend you like frozen bananas in a vegan’s household.
They touch you; change you and make you want to run to Tibet and find the truth yourself.
Being my mother Buddhist and a Dalai Lama’s stan (she even MET HIM, the lucky witch), I have come across a great deal of quotes by this happy, chappy man.
So here are my favorites; the ones that I have written over and over again on my notebooks, imprinted on my head for the times I want to turn into a glowing worm.
10 Lessons from the Dalai Lama that will kick YO ASS.
“When you think everything is someone else’s fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realize that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy.”
“There are people who are not at all concerned about the harm they inflict on others. They believe the main thing is that they themselves come out of the situation unscathed. Once again, this problem stems from a lack of awareness. The more we make others suffer, the more we accumulate causes for our own future suffering. Furthermore, since we thereby harm society we are doubly harming ourselves.”
“Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.”
“The very purpose of religion is to control yourself, not to criticize others. Rather, we must criticize ourselves. How much am I doing about my anger? About my attachment, about my hatred, about my pride, my jealousy? These are the things which we must check in daily life.”
Meditate every day. Write a journal and let your thoughts flow into a blank page, a canvas, or your music. Do not let feelings rot inside of you, because they will turn into mold and spread like a disease around you.
“If you have lived through a tragedy, you should be aware that worry and anxiety are just an unnecessary addition to your suffering. Try to talk about your problem, release it and do not keep it secret on account of modesty or shame. Tell yourself that the problem is now over and there is no point in taking it with you into the future. Try to turn your mind to the most positive aspects of your life.”
You are not your story. You are not the violence you had to endure. You are not your mental disorder. You are not your lack of motivation. Letting the bruised stuff to define you as a whole, you deprive yourself from moving forward and feeling complete.
Seeking professional help, talking to a friend, or using an activity to release that energy can help you turn things around and let this stuff being so glued to your identity.
“People take different roads seeking fulfilment and happiness. Just because they’re not on your road doesn’t mean they’ve gotten lost.”
Remember that monologue in Fight Club where Edward Norton talks about pocket-size friendships? Some friends are only meant to walk for a short portion of a track of your life; laughing with you, partying and giving you a shoulder to cry on.
Others, deep bonding friendships, are always within you; whether you are walking towards the same direction, or on opposite footpath, a real friendship is like a beautiful song that it will always means something to you, and that you can play at any time you need to be comforted.
Nurture those friendships and don’t waste your time with people who are only keeping you outside of the road. They can catch a bus!
“All suffering is caused by ignorance. People inflict pain on others in the selfish pursuit of their own happiness or satisfaction.”
People annoy you, belittle you, laugh at you, shouts at you, and betrays you not because they are naturally evil. They are suffering. Now, it is definitely challenging to rise above and not roll your eyes when someone is clearly pissing you off, but recognising the thinking pattern and letting your feelings of resentment and anger go can only help YOU.
“Every day, think as you wake up, today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others; to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings. I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others. I am going to benefit others as much as I can.”
My mother had this quote hanging on the wall just in front of the toilet seat. I think it was probably the best placement for an inspirational quote. I have read it first in the morning, late at night getting back from a party, sitting on the floor crying, or simply getting ready on an ordinary day.
It’s a powerful quote, so simple, yet we often forget the amazing gift that life is and how much we deserve to achieve our dreams and wishes for a better life.
“There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called yesterday and one is called tomorrow. Today is the right day to love, believe, do and mostly live.”
I loved this quote because it starts as a Nike/Fitspo ad like “yesterday you said tomorrow”, which quite frankly they often irritate me more than motivate me; but then the message is really about something that is a tiny bit more valuable than squatting 100 times. Respecting others. Make the most of your life. Be happy and believe that you can deserve to and be happy.
It’s amazing that you can run 100km, or squat your whole Italian family, and be a financial guru in your spare time; it’s great. You are making the most of it. BUT at the end of the day, all it matters is: are you living? Are you showing kindness and respect towards other people? Do you believe in other people? Are you satisfied with your life?
“Whether one is rich or poor, educated or illiterate, religious or non-believing, man or woman, black, white, or brown, we are all the same. Physically, emotionally, and mentally, we are all equal. We all share basic needs for food, shelter, safety, and love. We all aspire to happiness and we all shun suffering. Each of us has hopes, worries, fears, and dreams. Each of us wants the best for our family and loved ones. We all experience pain when we suffer loss and joy when we achieve what we seek. On this fundamental level, religion, ethnicity, culture, and language make no difference.”