What did you do on your day off? Nothing. Okay, let’s fix this.
The year has started and we are all about doing, working our asses off for the next promotion, and squeezing some time out of our schedules for building a better social life than the netflix and chill we had in 2015.
But then after a day or two, it hits us. We are absolutely drained. So tired that we can barely keep our eyes open in front of another episode of Making a Murderer; so sore from standing up (or sitting down) during our work hours and too lazy to actually do the work that we need to get done.
We look at the resolutions we scribbled down on our journals and we can’t help but leave out a sad smile. How the hell are we meant to have time for ourselves, when being motivated and focused takes so much of our own time?
It’s hard to wind down when you put yourself in a constant state of doing, working, making and pushing yourself to the max. You want to work harder and longer because it’s the first month of the year and you don’t want to disappoint yourself.
But take this moment to stop and listen to yourself.
How do you feel?
And don’t you dare shrugging it off and flaunt that convenient toothy smile followed by a defensive ‘I am fine, really!’. Because you know – and I know – that you’re not fine; otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this.
Between work, family commitments, friends wanting to party and you wanting to sleep AND partying; and the other hundreds things a human being can fill their day with, you are left with zero time for yourself.
When was the last time you sat down with a book and really savoured every single page you were reading?
When was the last time you went for a coffee by yourself and looked around you, indulging in some good old people watching?
When was the last time you had some ‘ME TIME’?
If you’re like and like many others, you probably haven’t had some time for yourself in a long time. So now it’s time to change it.
HOW TO HAVE SOME ‘ME’ TIME
Book time for yourself.
Like you made time for that booty call and that Sunday session with your friends, you can make time for yourself.
The reason why you don’t have time for yourself is because spending time with yourself is not at the top of your priorities.
Ask yourself why you don’t find it important to squeeze some time to dedicate to yourself every day.
Maybe it’s because you believe that you don’t deserve it, or maybe you think that it’s necessary; however retailing a couple of minutes of your day to spend with your own thoughts and emotions can have an incredible impact on your stress levels and your self-confidence.
So make your ‘me time’ a priority. Treat it as a vital workout that needs to be done every day in order to maintain your sanity.
One of the easiest way to spend time with yourself is to do something creative.
Everybody expresses their inner world in a way or another; some soak up the sun chasing waves, others spend hours painting, others run.
We all possess the gift of creativity; you just have to unlock it.
If you are like one of those people who used to work on their creativity every day, but stopped because they went into full-time jobs and full-time responsibilities; then listen.
Your creativity, what you have hidden inside your chest and that roams around free as soon as your pen touches the paper, or your feet jump into a breakdancing move – all that world inside of you keeps you floating in a sea of fear, self-doubt, negativity and injustice.
Creating something takes courage, believing in yourself. It starts from a place where we believe that our vision is worthy of being shared with others.
Dedicate time to the creativity you have silenced when you decided to become a ‘grown up’.
Not long ago you were a child who would spend hours drawing messy suns and stick figures on your bedroom wall. You had no rent to pay, nor you had to deal with people not texting you back, but expressing yourself was your priority.
Make your days off your ‘me’ days, by dedicating as much time as you need to your creative flow.
Stop hanging out with toxic people
When we have a day off our first instinct is to spend it with other people. We want to catch up with our friends, have a couple of drinks with our crush, or simply watch a movie with our housemates.
But sometimes our friends can be toxic. Like us, our friends and family carry their own burden and weight of negativity, self-doubts and fears. They want to be listened and helped, rant about their frustrations to you, so that they can feel better.
Nothing wrong with that. Except this is your day.
This is your sacred day for 0 fucks given and 0 time wasted listening to other people’s toxicity.
Of course this applies to certain circumstances, but we are all guilty of hanging out with people sometimes just for the sake of having another pair of ears that can listen to our problems and tell us that everything is going to be okay.
And it’s not problematic, but it’s an inconvenience.
This is your time to recharge your battery and take your working pants off. It’s not time to sit down and be a therapist for free.
Don’t feel guilty about limiting the time you spend with people on your days off, because ignoring the need to HAVE some down time for yourself can lead to a huge amount of stress that will come out in way or another; most likely vomited onto the very same friends you helped once.
Teach others that you deserve and need time for yourself to be present in their lives.
I don’t know about you, but the only thing I feel like doing when it’s finally my day off is to take my pants off, cut my watermelon and watch a Marvel movie.
I am as lazy as the next person. But other than creating, spending time with ourselves, we need to make time to discover and adventure into different things.
Some people express the world inside of them not by writing, or creating, but by adventuring somewhere different than usual.
You may be stuck in the concrete jungle, or in a tiny island in the middle of the Pacific Ocean, and think there isn’t anything really interesting to explore.
You can start from a different coffee shop, your local museum, or a different cinema theatre than usual.
Adventure is just around the corner, it only depends on how attentively you are looking for it. (as cheesy as it sounds, it’s true. you don’t need to live the travel blogger dream to discover new things).
So on your next day off, adventure, create, live every single moment you have for yourself and make the most of it.
You will notice how less dull and claustrophobic your ordinary life will get when you really dedicate time for yourself.